YOUR
WEDDING

"In every life there is a turning point. A moment so tremendous, so sharp and clear that one feels as if one’s been hit in the chest, all the breath knocked out, and one knows, absolutely knows without the merest hint of a shadow of a doubt that one’s life will never be the same."

Julia Quinn

Rites of
Passage

WEDDINGS

Weddings and the traditions that surround them can be rich, meaningful and touching.

It formalizes the union between two people, families, lineages; two worlds that are coming together to create something new.

I often incorporate some of my skills as a family constellations facilitator into wedding ceremonies. These elements aim to integrate the two families in a more explicit way, open the flow of love between them, and resource the couple through their family lines.

I DRAW ON ELEMENTS OF:

Co-creation, community participation, ritual, meditation, visualization, symbols, creativity and art practices, opening the flow of love in the family (family constellations), storytelling, elements of theatre, play, humour, archetypes, myths, poetry, systems thinking, imagination, inclusiveness of everyone (dead, alive or otherwise), images, memories of the community, metaphor, heart-based engagement, nature, adorning/costume, elements of devotion.

WHY ME:

I have been a performer all my life, and studied acting at the University of Cape Town.
In 2017 I joined Toastmasters and in 2018 won the Toastmasters Western Cape Finals for Prepared Speaking.
In 2001 I was initiated as a traditional doctor in Botswana and was consequently trained as a ritualist.
In 2019 I graduated as a Family Constellations facilitator. This therapeutic methodology focuses on healing family systems and has given me a range of skills that I can draw on to to enhance the depth of your celebratory experience.
My focus is on being inclusive: of LGBTQ and any other couple that may fall outside of

SUGGESTED OPTIONS:

I could design and officiate a short, non-denominational coming-together that feels ‘traditional’, focused on creating something that feels both touching and appropriate to you and your families.
I could design and officiate a longer ceremony that happens in parts: a section in the morning, at noon and at sunset, focusing on bringing into alignment different parts of your relationship, your families and the soul. It could include elements of nature, ritual, purification etc.
This same principle could become a ceremony that takes place over three days instead.
You could create the entire process of your wedding in consultation with me, focusing on the meaning and transformation that it could offer. This might mean that we start working together a few months before the wedding, and continue doing so a few months after.

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WHAT MAKES IT DIFFERENT:

In Western culture transitional events have lost a lot of the texture and meaning that older cultures may have included. Elements like preparation, participation, ritual etc. offer another level of depth and beauty to the impact of the occasion.
After designing the wedding in consultation with you, it could have a unique structure and shape that will set it apart from other similar celebrations. My goal is always to weave something together that feels appropriate and poetic to you and your family specifically.

ARE WE A FIT?

You are probably concerned with some or all of the following:

you value human connection; you value the natural world and feel concerned about the ecological crisis we find ourselves in; you're interested in preserving the sacred and mystical dimension of life. You may be involved in the healing arts; animism; shifting towards traditional and indigenous lifeways; a hippie; an artist of some kind. You are open- and liberally-minded. You prefer community over corporations. You want to embrace being a human in an increasingly inhuman world.

I am based in the southern suburbs of Cape Town, South Africa.